Recipe for a Happy Marriage

[jfgg01]

Recipe for a Happy Marriage

Not long after the honeymoon is over, many couples suddenly feel that they must now be serious, no nonsense people. They tend to fall into a rut of unrealistic expectations, assuming their spouses can read their minds as to what they want and need. But real life is not a romantic fairy tale and only you can create an environment that is conducive to romance, and bring out the lover in your spouse. Here are some ideas to zip up your married life.

Saying "I Love You" works. Say it as often as you want.

Try a new position every month.

Remember, the more you give is the more you get.

Do not ignore yourself. Looking good for each other makes you want to be closer emotionally and physically.

If you are a woman and you feel like doing it, don’t be shy of suggesting.

Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Learn to explain your angry feelings decently.

Exchange gifts for no reason once in a while.

At least once a month, do it out of the bedroom.

Go out alone at least once a month. If you have small kids, leave them with a friend, family or a sitter.

Small love gestures add a feeling of courtship. They can be serious or silly or sexy.

Create fun evenings, play silly games or read comics together.

Surprise your spouse by doing something special and unexpected.

Show affection and be liberal with your hugs and kisses. These small actions demonstrate the love inside you.

Men and Women look at sex differently. Remember sex is always on a priority list for a man.

Neglect the whole world rather than each other.

Give each other a massage. Use massage oils, candlelight and soft music.

Never bring up issues from the past. Discuss one subject at a time.

Forget your ego. Don’t wait for your partner to initiate something.

Make a ritual of going to sleep together. Snuggle for a few minutes before kissing and falling asleep.

Take a bubble bath together. Turn on your favorite love song CD. Then hop in together and enjoy each other’s company.

When you make a mistake, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.

Try to be each other’s soul mate.

If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.

Don’t take each other for granted. Be generous with compliments like "You are great!", "good food", "Hi Handsome" etc.

Go to the park for long walks, hand in hand.

Say it! Don’t imagine your partner knows how you feel. He/She is not a god.

[bookitty777]

great post! my hubby and i are going through some trying times and i am going to try some of these and see if it will help thanks!

[Prof. Akers]

If you are female - marry me, if you are male ignore that request.
Good post.

[Eniki]

Im getting married in 3 weeks to the man of my dreams i love him more then anything. we fight like an old married couple and stuff i know we are going to work out because we lived together 4 weeks homeless. I love kelly

[starguy]

thank u so much bro....

[ligit]

i have a another recipe

remember what attracted your partner to you in the 1st place
keep using those same methods to keep you partner interested
always have conversation about your relationship with your partner ( NOT others, help to get over insecurities such a jealousy)
keep being attentive (it helps to improve your relationship and have more growth)
know yourself (if you dont know yourself you wouldn't be able to have a good relationship)
love yourself
be supportive
be understanding
HAVE love for your partner (to fall would come across as less attractive and therefore make your relationship less interesting)

[nmcaldas]

Very good post , only wish my wife would see it , read it and start working on it   ...

[3xcharm]

Wonderful post.  
Some more ingredients:
- start every day with loving thoughts towards each other
- do not talk about your problems or disagreements with others (only the two of you can solve it anyway)
- give up trying to be "right", it does not matter anyway
- take every day with each other as a gift for you never know when it could end
- please each other, respect each other, and yourselves
- do not let the kids come before him/her
- give a lot of hugs and kisses
- say thank you for things the other does for you
- don't be afraid to be vulnerable
- be happy to see each other every time
- don't sweat the small stuff
- remember we are all unperfect
- love, love and more love

[mysticalravenwind]

We have had our share of crisis this first year of marriage but we are still together because i simalar rules we live by it work, aand helps to remember often just why you fell in  love in the first place...and love long in life its worth the journey....Mysticalravenwind