H my friend,
Please do not send me any further personal information about the two men involved, either on this forum or though a private message. Promise me now categorically, that you will not send me any further info.
These either/or or yes/no questions are frustratingly difficult to answer through a reading even at the best of times, and having too much logical information before the reading begins fires up the left side of my reader's brain, when it is the right side through which the intuitive information comes. If it comes at all.
For the purposes of helping you to decide with which of the two of these potential suitors there is a greater probability that there is a future for you as a couple, the reading will simply refer to them from now on as A and B. If you do not clearly recognise by the personality traits and other descriptions which of them is A or B, then the reading is unlikely to be of any practical use to you in helping you to make your mind up.
As you already know there is no way that any reading or reader can predict with anything approaching a 100% level of certainty that either of these relationships will go the distance, but however this turns out it is a valuable opportunity for you to get clearer on your own mind exactly what you are looking or in your life partner.
And what you could not or would not be willing to tolerate under the same roof, for more than one day in your man. In other words even if neither of them turns out to be the one this time (and there is no way to predict that), the extra experience which you gain from deciding between A and B now, should better prepare you to make a more balanced and more fully informed decision in the future with someone else.
Instead of me having to draw a card on your behalf, it immediately appeared in my mind's eye. It is the
Seven of Cups (SOC).
Any of the members of the Cups Tarot suit are always associated with the nature and depth of our closest relationships, so we are definitely looking in the right place when asking your question. In most situations the SOC refers to a love relationship which is what you are looking or, but I have given readings in the past where this particular card was talking instead about a life long friendship which was not by any stretch of the imagination of the romantic variety. Not that relevant or important in your situation, but I still needed to make this point regardless.
Specifically this seven is about us having to make a choice between two or more different options, where none of the options on offer to us is clearly a winner. Both A and B have good and not so good qualities about them which could help you to decide which of them if any is worth pursuing, but to which of their good and not so good points do you assign a higher priority?
Is it more important that the man you choose is a good money manager or that he wants children? If he is so good looking that you will be constantly in competition with every other red blooded woman who still has a pulse, are you willing to put up with this to get those qualities of character which make A or B a good catch in your eyes? And just how much are you willing to be tolerant and patient of his weaknesses to be able to have his strengths?
The phrase which jumps out at me is "all that glitters is not necessarily gold", or few men are whom they may first appear to be on the surface. And to be politically correct and fair so are few women. Our true characters are often multiple layered and incredibly complex. And yet here you are making what could be a potentially life changing decision about who we want to spend the rest of our life with, based mainly upon outward appearances or our first impressions.
Too many choices and decisions which need to be made too quickly are probably worse than us not having enough choices to make, for they can so easily and rapidly overload our abilities to use both logic and intuition in a balanced manner to make a reliable judgement. If you wait until you can be guaranteed to get most of what you want in your man and least of what you do not want in your other half, you could in both theory and practice be waiting indefinitely.
OK! So here is where the reading really gets practical and unfortunately more cryptic in us properly interpreting which of A and B should be your first choice,
if no other factors either known or still unknown do not come in at the eleventh hour, and confuse things even further for us (which is terribly common).
In choosing between A and B, focus mainly upon the following personality or behaviour traits, while keeping those further down the list at the back of your mind.
Look for the man who is the more experienced (not necessarily older) in knowing what a woman needs to feel valued and respected (loved).
Look for the man who is more in line or agreement with your own moral and spiritual values and beliefs. Do not confuse his religion with his spirituality.
Look for the man who is good at managing money, but at the same time is not so tight with his money that moths come out of his wallet every time that he opens it. If he ALWAYS puts money ahead of you and your relationship (sometimes you will need to do this temporarily to avert a major financial crisis), show him where the door is.
Look for the man to whom family is at least as important, as your family is to you. If both of his parents are still alive, you can often but not always get a better idea of what being married to him could be like. Many of us use our parent's marriage as a guide or measure to what our marriage could or should be, but some of us seeing the things which have gone wrong in their marriage go to the opposite extreme in our own.
We frequently overcompensate for our parents' mistakes in their relationship by making new and very different ones with our chosen partners. Because I cannot read the minds of these two men directly through a third party reading, I cannot tell you if one or both of them are likely to want the reverse extreme of their mother and father's marriage if you got it together. Understood?
Do not go into a relationship with either man A or B with rose coloured glasses (love can be blind), but at the same time if you keep picking on him and questioning everything which he does or does not do, you will surely lose him. You may have been hurt in the past and understandably do not want to ever be hurt again, but if you always only looking for signs that he has his weaknesses and bad habits you will most likely find ones to complain about, even if they do not exist in reality. Hurt people can easily imagine themselves out of having a happier and more loving relationship because they are conditioned by past negative experiences to look for bad signs, and conveniently and selectively ignore any good signs.
So far we have talked about you choosing him, as if he is an inanimate item on a supermarket shelf. Do you choose dish-washing detergent A or B? Instead of the idea of you making a shopping list of positive qualities you are looking for in a man, what sort of woman are you? What are your priorities? And are you really prepared to make reasonable sacrifices or compromises when your relationship inevitably and eventually hits a bad patch in the road.
Are you willing to give up your career to have children, give up on having your own family to be able to get to the top of the economic heap, or do you think that you could do both, with the right man by your side? You urgently need to ask yourself a lot of soul searching questions about your own priorities, as well as asking him about his in a way that he does not feel threatened, or as if he is constantly being interrogated by a lawyer or the police.
In summary no reading by itself can make this decision for you. In the end, it is only your decision to make. Hopefully the reading has provided you with some extra food for thought in helping you to better decide which of A and B is the man to try first (because if one fails you are not to feel that you cannot try the other man), but it cannot make the decision in your place.
As best you are able try to match as closely as possible what you have been told above with what you already know about man A or man B from other non intuitive sources. Do you have any common friends with either man? Use both logic and your own instincts in combination and balance with each other, when choosing who will be your first preference.
Remember to be yourself and not to try to intentionally hide things about yourself away from him because you may imagine that he is doing the identical thing to you, as a serious lack of trust in each other is not a firm foundation upon which to build your closest and most intimate relationship.
Trust however does NOT mean blind faith and completely ignoring any physical evidence to the contrary. Wear neither rose coloured nor dark coloured glasses when going into your next relationship. The less filtered by your own attitudes and beliefs is the information which you will be receiving about him, the more reliable should be your choice.
Blessings to all three of you,
EoT
